Domestic Violence

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic Violence is the pattern of intentional, assaulting, and coercive behaviors, including physical, sexual, and psychological attacks, as well as economic coercion, that adults of adolescents use against their partners and their children whose goal is power and control over and intimate partner.

  • Abusive relationships are about power and control
  • Abuse is never your fault. Acts of domestic violence are not justifiable, even if the violent person claims that they were provoked into using violence.

Types of Abuse

  • Physical Assaults:
    • Spitting, scratching, biting, grabbing, shaking, shoving, pushing, restraining, throwing, slapping, strangulation, etc. or use of weapons.
  • Sexual Assaults:
    • Pressured sex, coerced sex by manipulation or threat, physically forced sex, or sexual assault partnered by violence.
    • None consensual!
  • Psychological Assaults:
    • Threats of violence and harm, attacks against property or pets, acts of intimidation, emotional abuse, isolation, use of children.
  • Economic Coercion:
    • Control of victims’ access to all of the family resources: their time, transportation, food, clothing, insurance, and money.

Checklist of Abusive Behaviors

Has your partner ever done any of the following?

  • Denied you access to money?
  • Bossed you around?
  • Pouted or denied affection?
  • Checked up on you (listened to phone calls, read text messages, followed you, etc)?
  • Insulted you?
  • Accused you of flirting or cheating on him/her?
  • Acted jealous of your friends?
  • Made negative comments about your body?
  • Yelled or screamed at you?
  • Treated you like you are a servant?
  • Slapped you or spit at you?
  • Pushed, grabbed, or shoved you?
  • Made it difficult for you to socialize with friends and family?
  • Thrown, hit, or destroyed property?
  • Forced you to do something you didn’t want to do?
  • Used or threatened to harm you with a weapon?
  • Physically harmed your pets?
  • Forced you to have sex?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, please consider calling our Crisis Line for more information at (309) 582-SAFE.

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